Hello my friends today we’re are going to measure your beauty, so you’ll leave this article knowing whether you are pretty or your parents are just lying to your face. If you do turn out to pretty, how pretty are you? Are you like average, a five or worse a three or are you like a hot eight or a hard, hard ten sooo…. let’s go.

If you’re slim, blonde, tall then…

If you have long, long black hair, thin, thin waist then…

If you have an hourglass figure then…

Did you really think I was going to measure your beauty through the screen and without even getting the chance to know you?? Come on I thought you knew me better than that.

Are you pretty?? Am I pretty?? How do we know, is there a scale or something that we can use to measure our beauty?? Again I’m kidding or I’m serious or just totally confused.

The society has created something that we can use to determine whether we’re beautiful or not. It’s called beauty standards. So typically there are boxes that you have to tick in order for you to be perceived as “beautiful” by the majority of the society.

Beauty standards change all the time so I don’t know if we’re supposed to change our appearances every time the definition of beauty changes or we’re supposed to sit and hope that maybe, just maybe the society will decide that we’re beautiful and they’ll choose somebody who looks exactly like us.

How beauty standards are formed:

I recently watched a video that truly opened my eyes in a way. It was describing how beauty standards change over time. Basically in this video they said :

Beauty standards were always here since forever but here’s how they shift over time : So, business owners want to make money and they want their products to sell so they need to sell a product that everybody will want to get their hands on them. In order to achieve this they look at the population of that area and find something that most citizens don’t have. They look for something that is common and acceptable or maybe perceived as beautiful. Let’s say they decided that, mmmh I don’t know…thin waist is the way to go.

The vast majority of the population have fat or a little bit of fat around the waist which I think is okay and totally awesome so they decide to make thin waists the new beauty. They make everyone who doesn’t have a thin waist feel insecure, ugly, not enough and they make them feel like they need that thin waist. They then start selling hot belts to burn the fat off, slimming pills and everything in between. They then use models with extremely thin waists in their advertisement to make you feel really insecure and die of shame.

I think that’s really great marketing and that they’re really, really smart but they’re also leaving us with huge insecurities. After watching that video I truly looked at South Africa and it’s beauty standards and I thought, damn she’s right. I mean when I was little, everybody had their natural hair and everyone was proud of it( not that they aren’t today) and I didn’t personally know anybody who owns a wig. We were just rocking our natural hair so they decided to show us that wigs is the way to go, silky long hair is beautiful and that we should totally wig it up. I can’t lie this got me so insecure as I’m rocking my natural hair that nobody thinks is pretty anymore.

They introduced slimming pills and then most elderly people stopped saying the fatter the healthier and many people at school stopped teasing me about my mass (you know what everyone calls weight but it’s actually mass) in fact they thought I should lose a few pounds.

You are pretty, very pretty :

I hope at this point you understand that you’re pretty, you are very beautiful whether you short or tall, fat or slim, natural hair or artificial hair. You don’t lack anything and you don’t need anything to complete you. You are enough and you’re gorgeous and perfect just the way you are. Businesses are just trying to make money. There’s nothing wrong with you.

You don’t need any standards or scales or anything to measure your beauty. You don’t need to look like the majority to be beautiful. You’re beautiful, you’re hard, hard ten all by self without even trying.

You don’t need to measure up to the beauty standards of the society. How do we measure beauty anyway? Is it based on our height or mass or how thin your waist is? The truth is we all beautful, extremely beautiful in our own unique way.

“Don’t let others box you into their idea of what they think you should be. A confined identity is a miserable way to exist. Be you and live free. Trust that in living true to yourself, you will attract people that support and love you, just as you are.”

Jaeda deWalt

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