When you doubt your power, you give power to your doubt.” 

Self-doubt occurs when you doubt your abilities and your capabilities. It is a path that all human beings walk. Self-doubt holds you back from taking opportunities that come your way and chasing your goals.

Anything that stops you from achieving your goals is dangerous so we need to stop it. I’ll share my top 7 tips on how to overcome self-doubt :

Question your doubt :

When you’re doubting yourself and questioning everything you do start questioning your doubt. When you want to write that book but your head says : ” What if it’ll be boring??” or “what if nobody wants to read it??” Question your doubt by saying : “what if it’ll be interesting?” or “what if everybody will want to read it?”

You never really know what the outcome will be so don’t settle for the opinion of your inner critic.

Preparation is key :

I’ve said it before and I’m going to say it again. Preparation is key to confidence. If you’re doubting yourself because you think you’re not ready or you think you don’t know enough then start preparing. If you’re going to speak publicly for the first time then start practicing your speech in front of your mirror, deliver the speech for your family or friends and look up tips on how to nail your speech.

Take action :

The only way to shut your inner critic up once and for all is to take action. Prove yourself wrong. If you’ve always wanted to learn how to dance for a very long time but you keep talking yourself out of it. Surprise yourself, learn how to dance and practice often so that you’ll be good at it. This way your inner critic will stop saying things like this : “Just give already, you’ll never be able to do it”

OR

“Stop embarrassing yourself “

OR

“When you dance you look like a dizzy flamingo so just stop dancing unless you want everybody to laugh at you.”

Don’t compare yourself to others :

Your inner critic feeds on comparison so don’t feed it. I know it’s hard not to compare yourself to others when you literally can see everyone’s lives displayed on your screen. Let’s be real, those aren’t their lives at all. Social media is a lie, nobody’s life is as perfect as they portray it to be on Instagram.

You’re unique and your journey is different so don’t compare your chapter 2 to somebody else’s chapter 12. Also you’re very special, unique and different so there’s nobody to compare yourself to.

You are not your thoughts :

You have a mind, you have your thoughts but they are not you. What you think is not who are you. The negative thoughts that creep into your head when you’re not paying attention are not your reality.

Don’t believe everything you think :

There’s a popular saying that goes : “do not believe everything you hear” but today I’m saying “Don’t believe everything you think.” Not everything you think is positive and not everything you think is true. Don’t buy into it. Don’t accept everything that your inner critic throws your way as your identity.

Don’t believe that you’re failure just because you think you are. Don’t be believe that you suck at everything because you don’t, I know that you don’t. You are about to finish reading this article which means that you’re not a failure and you don’t suck at everything.

Use past experiences as proof that you can :

Remember that year that you were scared of doing that thing but you pushed yourself and did it and it turned out great. Use that memory or those memories as proof that you can do anything you put your mind to. I mean, if you did it once you can damn well do it again.

Don’t give your inner critic the upper hand, don’t give it all the power. You can do this, just stop doubting yourself and take action. You can do anything that you put your mind to.

Here’s my final piece of advice :

“ When self-doubt creeps in, don’t ignore it- address it. Respond to harsh self-critism with something compassionate. Talk to yourself like a trusted friend and refuse to believe your unrealistic inner monologue.”

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