“Happiness is letting go of the idea of how your life should look like.”

Being happy and feeling satisfied with your life is not as difficult as you think, infact it is not difficult at all.

We all want to be happy, don’t we? But the problem is we don’t know how. We think there is a formula for happiness somewhere out there. Yes, I know I once said in a previous Post in order to be happy you have to be “responsible”. I mean I was not wrong because psychologists indeed proved that people who are “responsible” for their own lives tend to feel happy and fulfilled but today I won’t be giving any secret recipe or anything.

“Finding happiness” is a myth because we “find” something that is lost or not there. Happiness is never not there.

We love postponing our happiness. We love thinking that somewhere in our future lies a big bowl of happiness and we just need to “find” it. You maybe think that once you get that job you’ll be happy, once you get that money you’ll be happy but guess what you won’t be. I mean, think about something in the past that you thought you’d be happy once you had it and that you now have. Are you happy??

This phemenon is called destination addiction.

” Beware of destination addiction- a preoccupation with the idea that happiness is in the next place, the next job and with the next partner. Until you give up the idea that happiness is somewhere else it will never be where you are.”

Robert Holden

If you have it don’t worry I have a cure. It’s called choice. You just have to decide then and there that you want to be happy, then you’ll be. It’s as simply as that.

Of course I wouldn’t tell you about something that I’m not sure works so here’s my story :

Do you know what my biggest dream is? That thing that I think would make me the happiest girl alive? You’d never guess it. Drum roll please… It’s having my own apartment and living alone.

Yeah, every introvert’s dream. So the majority of the time now I was thinking of “what I would be doing if I was in my apartment” I would spend hours day dreaming about it and I told myself that I would be happy once I live alone.

There are two things here : I had an idea of what my life should be like and I was postponing my happiness. So to cure this “destination addiction” I simply decided that I was tired of making myself miserable by constantly reminding myself that I still live with my parents ( I know, how awful… I’m 15 by the way). So I decided to be happy right then and there, to let go of my idea of the “perfect life” and just be happy in the present moment and I was, I am. I don’t have my own apartment yet, I’m still living with my parents and I’m happy with all of that.

I don’t care what you think will make you happy but I guarantee you that it won’t. Happiness is not a destination to be reached.

You can be unemployed and happy, you can be homeless and happy, you can be anything and happy. You just have to decide to be.

Happiness doesn’t come to you, it comes from you.

Good bye happy people, till we meet again.

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