I was 9 years old when I got my first “real” phone. I was incredibly excited to enter the “cell” age. Having a cellphone meant that I was considered responsible enough and trustworthy enough. It also meant I could be contacted by anyone I decided to give my cell number to.

Once a year or whenever my mother would tell me to unlock my phone and she would then go through my phone and look for the, umh… I still don’t know what she was looking for but I assumed she was going through my pictures, contacts and texts to see if she could find any evidence of a boyfriend.

To be honest those random cellphone searches made me super uncomfortable, not because I had anything to hide but because I felt like she was “violating my right to privacy”. ( Thank Goodness she didn’t do it as often as my friends’ parents).

I also hate when people borrow my phone. I mean I don’t have anything to hide but man it’s my phone. I didn’t know how to prevent that from happening. I mean I’m only a child, I can’t refuse when dear mommy wants to look at my “pictures”.

Where is this going ??___ You may ask .

I’m glad you asked.

Personal policies :

A personal policy is a principle, law, rule or commandment that you live by. It is like a boundary, just more specific and most of them are meant for you.

I heard this concept from MichelleB, one of my favourite YouTubers shout out to her.

You probably already have personal policies, maybe you don’t know yet or you still keep breaking them. Today we’re going to make your personal policies so clear that you’ll never break them again ( well, not for some time).

Let’s write your personal policies :

Grab a pen and a paper. Let’s do this.

Always : These are the things you always do.

Never : These are things you never do.

For example :

☑️ I always drink water before I eat.

☑️ I always eat breakfast.

❎ I never leave my house without pants.

❎ I never use my phone after midnight.

Simple, right??

Moving on :

This is the serious stuff. These are your personal commandments. They can literally be about anything.

My personal commandments:

1. Smile before answering your phone.

2. Whenever someone asks you to prove yourself, in an unprofessional situation don’t.

3. If someone doesn’t like you, don’t waste your time trying to get them to like.

4. Never reply to impolite people/ people who speak to you with no respect unless you have a really cool comeback.

5. Your cellphone is yours alone.

6. If you can’t be yourself around them, they are not your friends.

There you have it folks, my personal commandments. You can customize your policies however you like. I just wanted to make mine simple enough to always follow.

Remember you have to follow your policies like they’re the law. Don’t break them for anyone. I don’t know how many arguments I’ve gotten into with friends and family members because I refused to give them my phone.

✳️ Please comment down below 1 thing you never do, 1 thing you always do and 1 personal policy. I’d love to know.

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