“Don’t try to justify your choices. You don’t owe anybody explanations and excuses when it comes to your life. If you like a dress, wear it. Don’t explain that you think it’s cute because it has pockets. If you want a tattoo of something, get it. You don’t owe anybody it’s meaning. Make peace with being yourself and don’t let anybody make you feel bad for being you“

All my life I thought I owed the world something. I thought I owed my parents something because they made me feel like I did. The society, the school, my family…they all made me think that I owe it to them to do everything that I’m told to do and to be everything that they want me to be.

I did everything that I was told to do. I listened to my parents & teachers, I acted like an extrovert in social situations, I was a straight A student and I did everything to impress the “people with power” in my life. I hid all the aspects of myself that were perceived as unacceptable and I never questioned anything that I told to do. This resulted in self-identity issues. I didn’t know who I was because I was too busying becoming the person that I thought I “should” be.

I didn’t have control of my life because I was busy trying to please everybody else. One day, I cracked and I slipped into depression and I started questioning everything about me. Even when I was depressed I pretended like everything was okay because I thought I owed it to everyone around me to be happy and to smile and I didn’t know how to explain depression to people. So, I faked a smile because I didn’t know what to say if somebody asked me what was wrong.

After hitting rock bottom and getting back up I realised that this is my life. I realized that I don’t owe anybody anything. I said to hell with everybody else, I’m going to live my life how I see fit. Not everything I do is going to sit well with everybody but hey, this is my life and if that makes me a rebel then so be it.

“In a society that benefits from your self-doubt, liking yourself is a rebellious act”

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All in all…this is your life and yours only. You’re totally in control of it. You can choose to listen to everybody and try to please everyone, which I can assure you that you won’t or you can choose to listen to yourself and do you. Yes, I know that is it’s not as simple as I make it sound but it’s worth it. You only have one short life. Make it worth while.

You don’t owe anybody anything, you only owe it to yourself to live your life the way you see fit. You owe it to yourself to listen to you and truly live so break free from all expectations of who you should be and start finding who you are.

“Life is a stage and you get only one performance, make it a good one”