“I am beautiful, strong, patient.”

“I really love my outfit.”

“My body is so darn cute.”

Imagine saying all the above statements in a room full of people. Now imagine their reaction to your “compliments”

I used to consider myself modest. Probably the most modest person in the world. I never uttered a word about my brilliant listening skills, my ability to stay calm in a terrible situation nor my amazing grades or good looks. Modesty was my number one value.

There came a certain point in my life where I had rethink all this through, “why I valued modesty so much”

And by a certain point in life, I mean a lot of people in my life started to brag and boast about their achievement. They started to flex so much I couldn’t take it anymore.

In my “rethinking” I found that when I was little. A certain teacher in my class told us that we should never, ever utter a compliment directed to ourselves. “Even if you know you’re good at something, wait for others to compliment you.” She said. As a very obedient student, I took her words to my heart.

The million dollar question still stands :

Is Complimenting yourself arrogant?

As a very introverted observer I’ve noticed something. I don’t about guys but this is very popular with girls : Puting yourself down.

(a girl walks in the bathroom, stares at her reflection and goes…)

” I look so ugly, I look like a sack of potatoes.”

The others either ignore her or reply…

” You’re beautiful, you don’t look like a sack of potatoes.”

Seldomly they’ll say…

” Now that you mention it, you’re right. You do look like a sack of potatoes.”

Now my point here is… If girls or guys ( again, I don’t know) can put themselves down loudly in front of other people and people won’t be up in their case then why can’t we compliment ourselves loudly in front of other people.

We shouldn’t wait for them to validate our abilities. We compliment people love and we love ourselves. So hunny boo if you feel like showering yourself with compliments in front of people do so. In fact I dare you to leave 3 things you love about yourself in the comments below.

What is arrogance?

Arrogance is having excessive pride in oneself with contempt or disrespect for others.

Being arrogant is walking into a room and thinking that you’re better than other people. Complimenting yourself is just acknowledging yourself and your skills as you would acknowledge any person.

Example :

Compliment :

🏆My make up looks bomb today.

🏆 I wrote this really great romance novel.

🏆 I am super pretty.

Arrogance :

🏆 My make up looks bomber than yours.

🏆 My romance novel is the best on the website.

🏆 I am the prettiest girl in school.

As you can see above arrogance is about comparing yourself to others and then thinking you’re better.

So NO complimenting your self out loud in front of people is not arrogant it’s totally acceptable. In fact I recommend that you do it if you’re brave enough.

Don’t wait for people to validate you.

And if your friend thinks you should keep your compliments in your head then maybe she should ask you to also keep the compliments you have for her in your head too.

Now about the dare, are you brave enough??

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